ailment

A letter I wrote to a friend:

I'll share a bit of my current frustration with you so you can better understand my prayer needs...also because I feel better after I vent. Mostly because I feel better after I vent.
I realize that I'm no angel and that I have plenty of room for improvement. This is going to sound "harsh" "judgmental" "indignant" and "Self-righteous". There's no forum to address such issues because we don't have a real church, all of us together. And [our school leader] would never do anything. If I say anything, I get criticized. Do I let them go to hell? Let me explain-

I am so tired of seeing my "Christian" friends act so poorly that there is no distinction between them and the world. We all go to the same Bible studies, same churches, same discussions, but when it comes to actually living above reproach I'm not seeing it. I see girls purposefully dressing to get attention, and behaving in such a way just to get attention. They do anything they can to attract attention to themselves. And I see guys not minding at all. I don't see nearly enough people complaining about such behavior. I see people not receiving correction well. I see people manipulating others to get their way. I see the definition of "purity before marriage" as "no penetration -all else is pure". I see people happy to accept mediocrity as acceptable with no desire to actually *know* God. They have their fire insurance and I'm afraid for our friends, the ones we know, and love, and work with, and pray with, that when we go to heaven they will say ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ and He will reply, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’ [Matt 7]

Shawn, I don't see any care for living above the level of reproach. We have conversations about "those Sunday Christians" but I think WE ARE THOSE SUNDAY CHRISTIANS! We say we believe but our lives are mockeries of the cross. Seeing the behavior in others shames me and makes me ashamed of my friends. They give alcohol to under-age children (it may be a bad law, but its still the law). They back-stab. They curse. They enjoy crude comments. They go to parties where drugs are blatantly being used. They enjoy their sin. They have no desire to change. And they think that going on short-term missions proves they are sincere Christians. What damage are they going to do in Cambodia? Kazakhstan? France? Germany? Istanbul? What kind of a legacy are they leaving? Not one of Christ. I actually had one tell me that he wanted to show others that being a Christian wasn't that much different than not being a Christian - and that was his witnessing technique.

This is my frustration. What can be done?